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Opening up to someone.
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| mwiley38 |
Posted on 10-07-2008 00:45
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NOTE: Not sure if this thread already exists, but if so, please let me know. I apologize in advance.
If I were dating someone or meeting them for the first time, how would I go about mentioning my fascination with hoop earrings? |
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| Si |
Posted on 10-07-2008 01:48
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If it's the first date or you've only been dating for a short while i wouldn't say anything or she'll thing your strange. If she already wears hoops your a lucky chap and enjoy it. If she doesn't why not buy her a pair of simple medium or fairly large (not too big or she might never wear them) hoops as a gift for the maybe 3rd date? If she likes them and even wears them your in luck. If she seems un-impressed or makes a negative comment maybe say something like 'they seem to be fashionable and i though they were nice so maybe you would like some'.
In time as your relationship develops and your trust for each other builds you will open up about lots of things and you could have the 'what turns you on' conversation where she tells you she like mens eyes and men in suits etc etc, and you say you like nice smiles, and fashionable dressers and that you've always had a thing for girls wearing big hoops in their ears. She'll probably not say anything but, if shes into you, it will sink in and you might be in luck the next time you see her  |
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| hlover |
Posted on 10-07-2008 14:37
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Personally I would hold off on telling someone. I've only opened up about this to one of my girlfriends and it was well into the relationship. |
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| Beyerman |
Posted on 10-07-2008 23:37
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Yeah, don't tell her about it.
If she already wears hopps, as Si said, enjoy. Nothing else.
If she doesn't : first wait to be her "official" boyfriend, and second, wait until a special occasion (birthday, etc...) to offer her some hoops.
But before, be sure that she likes big hoops.
One day, I was thinking about buying big hoops for my girlfriend. (Who is now my ex-girlfriend  ) We were walking around in town and stopped in an earrings shop. I showed her some hoops and I said "Do you like that kind ?"
She said "No, they're too large for me. They don't fit with my hair length." Those were 2 inches hoops. And first I was thinking about buying her 3 inches hoops.
So always be sure about what you want of this girl. You should not consider her only as a girl-that-wears-the-hoops-you-like if you want to start a long and strong relation.
If you don't want to keep her for a long time, so buy her some 4 inch hoops on the second date  |
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| Si |
Posted on 12-07-2008 10:14
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Personally i wouldn't actually show her the big hoops in the shop, but if you want to see what she like take her in when your out in town and see what she goes for and looks at.
Don't worry if she totally avoids the hoops. Most girls own at least one pair and very few would ever consider one of their everyday accessories a 'fetish' item.
My wife was all about dangles when we met, but i started to buy her hoops as well as other jewellery and she started to wear them because i bought them for her. After a time she started to choose hoops her self as she gopt used to wearing them, and now wears them quite a lot.
Start small, say an inch or so and gradually go bigger, but be sure to change the style etc or you'll look like your just easing her in to huge hoops (which i guess u are). If she already has multiple piercings but u only ever see her wear one pair try dropping into conversation that u'd noticed her ears were pierced more but you've only ever seen her wear the one set. She might say 'oh it cos i can't be bothered' or' i havent got anything to wear in them' in which case u say 'it wud be cool to see you wear them sometime'
When she's used to hoops start going bigger and eventually she'll be all for the real monsters.
If after a year or so she still isnt wearing them, then its time to open up and tell her how much the sight of HER wearing big bold hoops would turn you on. |
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| mwiley38 |
Posted on 13-07-2008 00:44
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Yeah, it does make sense to wait until I'm actually in a relationship (or at least close to one) to say anything. Besides, I think the experience will be a lot more exciting if she were my girlfriend. I could only imagine the amount of fun we'd be having together if you know what I mean |
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| Si |
Posted on 13-07-2008 09:50
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Yeah it can be great fun, especially if you get as turned on by her wearing them as i do
I actually get excited buying them for her. It's all kind of part of the process. Going shopping, finding some really sexy hoops, buying them (sometimes to the bemusement of the girl on the register), taking them home then the nervous rush as you present them to her.
If it all goes to plan she'll love them and wear them straight away, or at least pretty soon after. |
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| terryhoops |
Posted on 16-01-2011 11:56
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Having only been with my girlfriend for about 2 weeks we passed a show with hoops in the window, she said I would buy those but don't think they would suit me, I said let's buy them and if you don't like them it dosen't matter. If only she knew then what a thing I have for hoops ! Pestered her to put them on and she said that they were a bit to big (4 inch) as she has long hair they were not that visible, so she put her hair up and WOW ! ! ! Those babies looked amazing ! Couldn't keep my eyes on the road. Got home in record time ! Now the hoops are worn all the time. We are now looking for larger, ideal would be 6 inch but cannot find any. |
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